Review: Never Have I Ever by Katie Heaney

Never Have I Ever

So I went into this one thinking that Katie Heaney is going to become my new best friend, but after reading Never Have I Ever, that kind of didn’t really happen. I thought that we’d have similar experiences or thoughts… but we didn’t. I thought that we’d have similar relationship goals (or lack of) and types of friends… but we didn’t. I’m sorry, Katie, but we can’t be friends. 😦

Introduction

Katie Heaney has spent 25 years looking for love, and this memoir chronicles her many struggles during that period of time.

Discussion

Over the last decade or so, the gradual change in gender roles and societal values have led to the rise of “relationship virgins.” I, like many other readers, picked up this book most probably because we were also relationship virgins, like Katie claimed to be. It was definitely surprising to find that I didn’t really care about Katie’s experiences or old diary entries on crushes or about her crushes that never turned out to be anything more than crushes. Whether it was her writing style or just her experiences, I didn’t feel a connection to her, unfortunately. Usually, when my friends talk about their crushes, I’m excited to live vicariously through them. The fact that I’m excited in that sense but not with this book might be due to the fact that I already have connections and relationships with my friends, and I didn’t have that connection with Katie. One part of the book that I could relate to, though, is having a friend who was the opposite of a relationship virgin – in Katie’s world, her friend Rylee holds that position. I liked Katie’s interactions and conversations with Rylee as well as her other friends, and I wish we had that relationship too! I felt like such a fake friend just going, “Uh-huh, uh-huh” while staring at my nails and not really paying attention to her very-real boy problems.

Also, the main reason why I finished this book is that I kept waiting for something more – some insightful thoughts to wrap up all her relationships or something of the sort. Which never happened. Thus, this book could have very well been a diary, because Katie spent more time on the events and the happenings of her love life and less on the thinking aspect.

Conclusion

Humans are incredibly egocentric, and I think the reason why memoirs work is that people like talking or writing about themselves, and we are also interested in hearing about these people talk about themselves and their experiences. However, Never Have I Ever didn’t work for me. I’m still trying to figure out why it didn’t work for me (is it that Katie’s too different from me? Was it her lack of analysis of her relationships?), but I know that I was disappointed by this book.

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6 thoughts on “Review: Never Have I Ever by Katie Heaney

  1. Yeah, I’ve come to realize that memoirs really only work for me if the narrator has a point. Like, it’s great that you’re just telling me some fun stories about yourself, but I don’t really know you so if they don’t have a point, I’d rather go listen to random stories from someone I know…??? So that would probably really annoy me about this book. Good books always have a message (even if you don’t like it lol).

    And as a random side note, you never know when romance will strike. I thought I was single forever at 27, and then I rear-ended my future husband on the way to work, and we got married three months later. 😀

  2. Haha, like Sarah said, there really has to be some kind of point for me to get excited about most memoirs. I think the lack of analysis here would have bothered me too. I’m engaged, but I also enjoy living vicariously through my friends’ boy drama. Being in a relationship is wonderful, but being single can also be a lot of fun 🙂

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